Engaged? Congratulations! 5 Next Steps You Should Take!

I feel like everyone I know is getting engaged – my Facebook feed is filled with sparkly rings and smiling couples.  I couldn’t be happier for those who plan to spend their lives together.  Yay for wedding planning!

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Having just gotten married  a little over two years ago, here’s some “practical” advice for newly engaged couples!

1) Call up your family and friends!  Seriously, resist the urge to share to Facebook right away. I say this because you don’t want your cousin to find out your happy news because she saw your picture on her newsfeed.  Give your best friends and family a phone call to share the news, then go ahead and update your relationship status to “Engaged!”

2) Insure your ring.  Let’s hope your jeweler provided you with an appraisal, because you should get insurance on your ring.  And then, you should also buy ring cleaning solution.  No joke! I don’t think I realized how dirty a diamond ring can get so quickly, but talk to your jeweler to get their thoughts on ring cleaning. A solution is super cheap and will keep your ring sparkly!

3) Weddings are expensive (The Knot reports the average cost is around $28,000 – I bet it’s much more for multi-day Indian/Pakistani weddings).  It’s a little mind boggling how expensive some vendors are, so you should sit down and figure out what kind of a budget you and your fiance have – and whether the parents are willing to pitch in, and how much.  Be realistic, the first photographer I emailed started at $8k – there was just no way that was in my budget.  Furthermore, I know for some Pakistani families (mine included), the tradition is that the groom’s family is responsible for the cost of the bride’s trousseau, so those items should also be discussed (granted, I married non-Pakistani, so there was no discussion here!).

4) Join Pinterest!  Can you believe just 3 short years ago Pinterest didn’t exist?  I didn’t have it to help with my wedding planning – I still managed – but I cannot imagine planning a wedding without Pinterest (Follow me here)

5) Finally, start browsing blogs and wedding magazines to get inspired, and then pin them to above said board.  There are so many blogs I found inspiration from (but unfortunately so few that focused on South Asian or more specifically – Pakistani wedding planning!) – a few of my favorites: Style Me Pretty, Green Wedding Shoes, etc.  Find out what you like and what you don’t like by browsing these.  Also be prepared to be slightly depressed – some of the blogs only feature “the top of the line” vendors- which is fair, but note that those vendors come with sky high prices.

Did I miss anything? What do you think is essential in starting to plan your wedding? Sound off in the comments!