How to tackle Wedding Invitations

I think sending out wedding invitations is probably the most tedious of all wedding-related tasks.  I wish it was one of the things I did not have to do myself.  If I could have hired somebody to take care of it for me, I would.  Hand-addressing 150+ invitations and making sure they are all mailed out is just something I am glad I will never have to do again… until my own kids get married.

(cute vintage postage below from 100layercake)

I recommend compiling addresses FAR in advance from all your friends & families.  This saves all the last minute rushes to find addresses.  Keep these in an excel spreadsheet so you can refer back to them come time for Thank You cards to be sent out.

If you are hand-writing your envelopes (as proper etiquette dictates you should!), be sure to order extra envelopes!  Most companies send you extras as a precaution, but you can never be too sure.  (I myself have made mistakes on a few!)

I always hear that you need to take a finished wedding invitation (cards, reception cards, RSVP cards, inserts and all) to the post office to be weighed for postage.  I did this… and of course, I heard 4 different costs at each of the post offices I went to.  I heard from one person at the Post Office that it would be 61 cents, another said $1.05, another said 88 cents, and another told me 61 cents.  I sent a test one out and it was delivered to the recipient for 61 cents, so I went to the post office with a stack of envelopes at 61 cents and the lady FORCED me to purchase 44 cent stamps to add on to my stack of 50 envelopes.  Not fun!  Some cards were mailed with the $1.05 postage, others were mailed with the 61 cent postage.  This sent me into a panic!  What if people don’t receive their invitations?   Surprisingly, MANY invitations were received by the recipient with the 61 cent postage and just 3 were returned for more postage.

Keep track of RSVPs as they come in!  Put a date that is enough time before the wedding so you can track down lost RSVPs.  My wedding is June 5, so guests are urged to RSVP by April 20.  That gives me lots of time to track down lost RSVPs so I can create my Seating Chart.  So far I have 89 positive attendees–yay!

How to handle people asking you inappopriate questions about your wedding day…

I think what shocks me the most about people asking about your wedding day is that they have the gall to ask the cost of your event…

Thankfully, none of my friends are tacky enough to ask me questions associated with the cost of my events, I know that they have the class not to.  I have fellow cost-conscious brides come to me for advice on where to save and vendor suggestions for their budget, but in terms of actual dollar amounts, it’s a very tacky thing to ask how much one is spending.

It’s a few people that just shock me with their attitude and their prying details.  I have a very hard time trying to dodge these questions without seeming rude.  There’s one guy in particular, who happens to be getting married next year, who asks me a million and one questions about my wedding planning and the price tag for each of my wedding details.  It’s so annoying! I know he doesn’t do it because he’s interested in hearing updates, he does it to try and “compete” with me.  I’m venting, I know. But how do you avoid questions like this?

-What did your invitations end up costing you? (real question)
My reply: Oh, I’m not sure, my parents took care of that part… I really love my invitations though.

-How much are you paying per head at the hotel? (real question)
My reply: It’s a good rate but I was able to work with the lady on fees… I’m not really allowed to say.
When all else fails…just say you’re not allowed to disclose the cost and provide them with the contact information for the hotel.  It’s no one’s business what your family is paying per head.

-Weddings are SO expensive, what’s your family’s budget?? (can you believe people have asked me this!!)
My Reply: yes… they are.  we are trying to keep things simple and are spending money in areas where it truly matters.
This surprises me beyond belief.  The number of people who have asked me this is outrageous.  Yes, Pakistani weddings have a ton of guests, but, it’s not your business what we spend or don’t spend.  A lady at my office persistently asked me the price.

-How much are centerpieces? (seriously?! ask a florist!)
My reply: I’ve seen quotes for varying amounts… so I can’t really say…depends on what you want really!
First, anyone knows that a centerpiece can cost $200 (peonies, roses, etc!) or $30 for something small with lots of green.  This is the best answer to provide to prying people!

-But still, how much are they??  Like what’s a range?
My reply: I suggest you go talk to a few florist and find out what it can be.  You can spend $5k and you can spend $12k, it depends on what you want and what you need.

-How much are your bridesmaids dress? (after seeing the order forms & checks at my desk…)
My Reply:
I don’t want the girls to spend too much money, so they are reasonable and really pretty.

-How much is your makeup artist charging you?
Excuse me?  I just didn’t respond to this question.  He’s a guy, why does he care what my makeup person charges!

A note to all brides & grooms, a wedding is not a competition. It’s an expression of the love you and your fiance have for one another.  The price you spend has nothing to do with how great your wedding will be.  I’ve seen gorgeous weddings that were done on a small budget, and tacky events that were done with million-dollar budgets.  It’s all dependent on your taste and how well you work with what you’ve got.